Parenting and Children
Navigating Parenting Arrangements
Navigating separation
Putting your child’s interests first.
Putting your child’s interests first in parenting arrangements means creating a plan that prioritises their emotional, physical, and developmental needs above the preferences or conflicts of the parents. It’s about making decisions that support your child’s stability, safety, and ongoing relationships, rather than focusing on what feels fair to you as a parent.
ASK YOURSELF:
- Is this arrangement in my child’s best interests or is it based on what I want?
- Will this help my child feel loved, safe, and supported?
- How will this arrangement affect my child now and in the future?
Your Options
Parenting Plans vs Court Orders
A parenting plan is an informal, flexible agreement made between parents about the care of their children. It is not legally binding, meaning it cannot be enforced by a court if one parent fails to comply. Parenting plans are generally low-cost, can be made with or without legal involvement, and are ideal when both parents are cooperative and focused on the child’s best interests. They offer flexibility and allow parents to update the plan as circumstances change.
In contrast, a parenting order is a formal, legally binding decision made by the Family Court. It can be based on an agreement between the parents (a consent order) or result from a court hearing. Parenting orders are enforceable, meaning the court can impose penalties if one party does not comply. They offer greater certainty and protection, especially in high-conflict situations or where there are safety concerns. However, parenting orders can be more costly and time-consuming to obtain and are less flexible—changes generally require further legal steps or court approval.
Frequently Asked Questions
Common questions about parenting arrangements.
Do we have to go to Court?
No, many parents reach agreement with help from lawyers or mediators without the need for Court intervention.
What if my ex won’t cooperate?
We can help you pursue parenting orders through the court if needed.
Can arrangements be changed later?
Yes, by agreement or further court orders if circumstances change.
